I was working in the administrative office of a local retirement residence when I first learned of her existence. After studying industry tactics in other areas, I decided to approach my boss about getting the residence more involved in the community through working with some local seniors charities or advocacy groups. I was relatively new to the area and watching the local newspapers to see if I could come up with specific ideas.

This one woman kept coming up time and time again. Gwen Kavanagh from CARP Chapter 36 at the flag raising on World Seniors Day; Gwen Kavanagh says Barrie CARP to hold political forums next week; Gwen Kavanagh from CARP talks co-housing. She seemed to be someone who believed in something; someone who would stand up, speak up when it was needed. She was someone I wanted to know.

Unfortunately, my community involvement idea went down in flames. We were the #1 retirement residence in the area, why would we make the extra effort of getting involved in the community?? was the response I got, so I let it go.

Fast forward a few years later, I was doing community relations for a competing residence. It was my first month in the role and I was manning a table with my colleague at a seniors services trade show when I saw CARP on the list of vendors. I grabbed one of my business cards, forced myself to walk up to Gwen’s table (very out of my comfort zone way back then) and introduced myself. She smiled at me and took my card, I didn’t know what I was supposed to say next, so I waited. She suddenly said “Is that really your name?!” It turned out that her cousin was also named Beverly McGrath and had recently passed away. McGrath was her maiden name.

We aren’t related but I always thought that was a cool story. Manifest destiny kind of thing even. What are the chances? And she proved I was right about her dedication as she instantly recruited me to work for her cause and I joined CARP Chapter 36 as the Vice to her Chair. We’ve been friends and colleagues ever since.

Gwen has come in and out of my life several times over the years. She introduced me to two of my all time favourite people (that means you, Molly and Kelly! xx), she has encouraged me in my career, and anticipated new tales about my love life and career strategy during our frequent lunches. She was in the room when I had one of my great life epiphanies (although she didn’t know it), she cheered me on when I made a life altering leap of faith, she welcomed me home when that leap of faith went much differently than expected and, in some ways, she has unknowingly nudged me farther than I would have gone on my own.

Maybe not a lot of people have close friends who are 30 years their senior, but through this friendship I get support and kindness and family and growth. She’s my sister from another mister, my advocate, my mentor, and absolutely 100%, my friend.

Thank you for everything, Gwen. I’m so happy to have you in my life. xo